Trust, Love, and... Sex Toys
Part One of Two

The following situation may sound familiar to many men. You are leaning back in your favorite lounger watching a gay porn flick on the tube. In one hand you are stroking your cock, with the other you hold your bottle of Gun Oil lube. Getting a little distracted, you ask yourself... "Why the hell am I getting off by myself?" "Why am I a bachelor still?" "Why have all of my relationships failed?" "What do men want in a relationship?" Believe it or not, it's really not much of a mystery. Other men are looking for what you are out there looking for too. Three most important things gay men look for in a relationship are trust, love, and sex. Every man will agree to at least the latter. Here's a big tip for you. When your sex drive fails, make sure you are stocked up on batteries, more lube, and big plastic surprises.

Trust is necessary in order to develop our relationships into something serious. Without trust, that relationship will in the long run be meaningless. But you know, if you are in something that is all about meaningless sex, then you have no worries about losing someone's trust. But you will find yourself once again on that lounger watching gay porn by yourself when your partner moves on to something more meaningful. For the majority of men out there, trust is something you and your partner must both earn, and most men want this between each other. If you believe your partner is cheating on you for instance, that poses as a major problem and will stifle any growth potential as a couple. Either you assume you are right and he is a no-good scumbag, or you are wrong. You never developed the trust between each other which means you never could have faith in him or your relationship. So first comes trust, then comes love.

Love is not the most obvious possibility most gay men consider when entering into a relationship with another man. He's not thinking "does this have potential?" "Does he give me butterflies?" "Can I see myself with this man forever?" No! At first you are both thinking, "he's hot and I want to see him naked." I hate to break this to my boy friends out there, but we all pretty much think a like. Who doesn't want someone special to cherish and hold onto? Sure, we put up with a little bickering here and there, but ultimately we get to have someone sitting next to us and enjoying our porn DVD evenings. You have someone to take turns holding the lube... don't we all wish for this? Of course I'm exaggerating on the silly side, but you know what I mean. And I am not saying love is what every man seeks out when he meets another man, I am just saying, if you are tired of being lonely and want a little more than just someone to fuck around with, then "love is all you need."